Anxious attachment is often misunderstood as being “too much,” “needy,” or overly dependent. From a trauma‑informed, Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective, it looks very different. Rather than a flaw or personality problem, anxious attachment is an adaptive strategy , one that developed to keep connection alive when safety, consistency, or emotional attunement were uncertain. In this post, we’ll explore how anxious attachment tends to show up in adult relationships, what’